THE FALL OF WOMAN KIND

Philip Ney, Pioneer Publishing, 20/11/09

"The woman was convinced. The fruit looked so fresh and delicious and it would make her so wise. So she ate of the fruit"(1). She wanted both the pleasure and the power.

Eve's Wrong Choice.
God is very friendly. He wants to be known. He wants unlimited friends with whom to chat, walk, explore, discover, laugh, dance, sing, and shout. On one side of the agreement, God would give Himself and all that went with that. On the human's side He required was that His friends choose Him to be their friend above all others forever. Because He wanted mature, interesting creatures to enjoy eternity with He endowed them with amazing capabilities and attributes. "For you made us a little lower than God." (Elohim, in Hebrew)(2).
To have a choice there had to be an alternative. To have a free choice, the odds had to be even. Gave Adam and Eve a free (50:50) choice to know Him or to have "the knowledge of good and evil"
There they were in a magnificent garden with friendly animals of all kinds and the Creator of all, wishing to walk and talk with them. He wanted them to get to know Him slowly and joyfully. After all there was no time limit.
You would have thought that there could be no alternative to such an awesome offer. So God hid his beauty and power while allowing Satan to be as handsome and seductive as he could. God knew humans and taking their nature into account, He calculated the ratio very carefully. Having set the scene, he watched and waited to see what would happen. If He could have predicted the outcome, then the odds were not even. But it did not really matter. He had a plan for either outcome. One way or another he would get His way. After all He is God and God doesn't lose even if for short periods, it seems He and His children are in retreat.
It isn't important whether or not the story of Adam and Eve is actual or apocryphal. It is probably both. It is important to know, we would probably have made the same choice, silly and tragic, as it seems from our perspective. How can you know this? You probably make the same stupid choice every day. Choosing to gain false knowledge and foolish power from the TV rather than spending time communing with God in some quiet place.
Led by Eve, humans made the wrong choice. They fell a huge distance. They are no longer a little lower than God. Humans died with no remedy but what God would offer them. They whole cosmos was thrown into a decaying mode, (entropy)(3). It was only a matter of time until all of God's wonderful creation would be destroyed.
Eve and all her daughters desired knowledge and sensation, power and pleasure. It looked and tasted so good. She bit the apple and bit the dust in one moment.
She got the knowledge of good and evil. Now for all human kind, every bit of knowledge, discovery, invention can be used for good and evil purposes. Atom energy is a prime example. It is harnessed for amazing amounts of electricity or for bombs of mass destruction. So it is also for gunpowder, DDT, smelting of iron, etc. etc.
A woman's knowledge of good and evil is most accurately understood in giving birth to a child and murdering a preborn baby, from nurturing new life or destroying him/her in the most inhuman way possible.
This is why militant anti-God anti-feminists encourage their following to deliberately get pregnant then choose to have an abortion. They rightly claim that in this way a woman is empowered by the experienced knowledge of her ability to choose to give life or death.
Knowledge certainly grants power. Whoever has the best secret weapon wins the war. But false knowledge grants a false sense of power and those who boast of nothing soon go down to defeat. Even when it is real but evil power it will destroy whoever posses it. Women who give birth and have an abortion know something even the "gods" did not but they are wrecked and ruined by it.

Adam's Mistake.
"Because you listened to your wife and ate the fruit I told you not to eat..."(4). Since then men have erred by listening to their wives and not to God. God has always said to men and women, I must always come first. Unless a man is prepared to leave his mother etc., he cannot be my disciple (5). It is when men get these priorities mixed up that the marriage and family are doomed.
Adam was being kind. He wanted to please his lovely new wife. He was being noble. Adam was loyal. He wanted to do the right thing and not leave her isolated and abandoned after what he probably could see was a disastrous choice.
Adam was being stupid. He also wanted this power but had a better idea of how terrible would be the consequences. He should have realized by then that the God he had known for some time, knew everything and was ready and willing to share it all. Adam was afraid. Having just been given an almost perfect mate, he couldn't face being alone again. He could have anticipated what it would be like to be alienated from God.
Adam was disobedient. He knew what the choice and the consequence, "God says we must not eat it or even touch it, or we will die"(6). The bad choice of Adam and Eve resulted in their death, the death of everyone since then and the death of God's Messiah, Jesus.
Being Kind, Noble, Loyal, Ignorant, Fearful, and Disobedient to God by putting his family first are being advocated by pop psychology and most Christians ape it all.

The Original Intents.
Woman was created from a man and shared most of his genes so that she could intuitively understand him and know what were his needs. Because they were from one flesh, they become pair bonded through sexual intercourse and reunited into one flesh for the rest of their earthly lives.
Adam's mate was designed to be his helper/companion, "I will make a companion who will help him"(7). Because God created man to think, discover and work, He gave Adam and consequently a mate that would help him in the work God gave him. All men need to exercise their brains and muscles to stay healthy. "Naming" i.e. ordering and classifying all of God's creation required good observation, hiking about, climbing up and down, swimming, diving, flying, sailing and caving. To record his systematized observations Adam would need to develop a written code and language. Even after about 7000yrs humans have yet to accomplish the work God gave Adam.
Adam needed a research associate, (helper-mate) and research assistants (children), lots of them. He not only needed their practical help but their observations, ("Hey dad look what I just found".) He needs a family with whom to share his delight and sense of accomplishment. ("Well gang, I'm bushed but we've had a really good day and now just look at that remarkable sunset. I think God is showing He is also pleased with our efforts. It is a good life. Thank you wife and kids for all your good suggestions and help. Most of all, thank you great and glorious God for life and work and sharing Yourself with us.)

Eve's punishments.
1. "And though your desire will be for your husband, he will be your master" (This usually written translation but it is also translated, "And though you may desire to control your husband he will be your master.")(8). It seems both translations can agree if it is understood that Eve's desire for her husband, makes her dependent on him. That desire for her husband is powerful. It is genetic and unstoppable. A man can use it to control a woman if he isn't first controlled by God's command to love her as "Christ loves his church"(9).
That desire arises from:

A) the need for children which comes from:
i) the survival of the family, clan, nation, species that offers sustenance, communication and protection.
ii) care in one's old age
iii) the opportunity to give and receive affection.
iv) the need to pass on one's knowledge and wisdom.
B) The benefits of male generated hormones.
C) The desire to be reunited with the source of her genes. (one flesh). He will be your master. That desire is so strong, men can dominate women by withholding sex and companionship.
Although many modern women feel they can laugh at men because they believe they can accomplish anything a man can do, when they are in their mid forties and their career feels pointless, they will again feel the powerful urge to find a man, "so we can grow old together", "maybe have a child". This is a drive, which dominated much of their adolescents. These women rage against it individually and fight it collectively, but it won't go away.
The Down's Syndrome expert from Denmark had to report that even with freely available genetic testing, supportive national ethic and easily accessible eugenic abortions, the number of Down Syndrome babies increased. Why? Because many women, after a successful career wanted to have a baby in their mid to late forties and "would take anything they got", even Down's Syndrome children.
Women have majority of the votes, most of the wealth etc. (10). but still they feel they need more because it appears men are still able to dominate them. They will avow they don't want men to cower before them but they can't feel equal until they also have the dominant position, especially in government agencies.
The wiser women are beginning to realize they are fighting something deeply buried in themselves and that what they have gained is really something not worth having They can see that it is all about to back fire. They are now the dominant one in the household, have to make the hard decisions, earn a living for their family etc. while deep inside they wished they had stayed home and been with their children as they grew up. Recent evidence that women and men have different brain, means they can never be equal. Men are intuitively better at making quick and appropriate decisions in crises such as occasioned by war.
If a drunk, shouting loudly and carrying a large stick, staggers down the street then turns towards the home of a young couple who are planting flowers in their front yard, what almost invariably happens. The woman scoops up her baby and rushes into the house. The man roaring a challenge, confronts the intruder.
It is not an accident of history that front line troops in every country in every age were men in 90%+ of real fighting. Even their "Attention Deficit Disorder" so called which makes them distractible and impulsive is an asset in a real war or tracking a path through the wilderness.
So while they may scream after a retreating husband, "Alight go and see if I care. We can do just as well without you." Deep in their frightened hearts they know that no amount of child support or welfare can replace their yearning for a husband. "If only this wasn't so "they tell each other, "We could get along fine with sperm donors or cloning". "Why is it that I'm actually happier with a man in the house even if he isn't a particularly good one and even if we often fight?"

2. "You will bear children with intense pain and suffering"(11). It is becoming apparent that though Caesarian Sections by choice are becoming common, it is not the best thing for the baby. Just like the butterfly must be squeezed in order to make its wings dry and lighter in order to fly, so a baby's head must be squeezed in the birth canal so a variety of vital changes in his/her brain take place.
Only in the last ½ century has childbirth become routinely safe and pain free. Then what happens? Over 50% of women have induced abortions, which significantly increase the likelihood of preterm birth and low birth weight (12). With this awareness and because of their guilt; women are more anxious during their pregnancy and fearful of the outcome. Because of damages to the vagina and uterus, the birth following abortion is more difficult and painful.

3. "You and the woman will be enemies."(13). Satan persuaded Eve with deceit. Now every woman, realizing that she can easily be persuaded, does not trust herself, men or the media. She is constantly at war with herself. How can she trust her own judgment when she has made so many mistakes in the past, particularly about men and which child to abort. She is on guard lest her man "leave her in the lurch." Her suspicion results in angry looks and repeated questions, which result in him leaving as much as anything. As she succumbed to deceit, so she uses deceit to control others.
These phenomena are accentuated by the constant undermining of her need for a commitment. Feminists are in the forefront of those who mock marriage, particularly the founder of International Planned Parenthood Federation, Margaret Sanger (14). She wrote and spoke of marriage in the most disparaging manner, had many lovers and only "married" for money and then on the understanding it was "open" and each could have any number of lovers. Now women in general reap the so-called benefits in men who are reluctant to commit and prone to leave with little provocation.

4. Your seed and his will be perpetual enemies. The sons and daughters of Eve will constantly struggle with all the ramifications of sex. Blind to the fact that God, through all the mechanisms of pair bonding, makes a man and woman one flesh for life, humans have replaced marriage by God with many forms and rituals called a wedding, that cost much but only tire out the couple on their wedding night. The wedding presided over by a pastor or priest undermines the real importance of commitment and pair bonding. So her sons and daughters still struggle with Satan's deceit. They don't understand what is marriage and they certainly are confused about love.
CS Lewis wrote about 4 loves (15), as if God who commanded his children to love Him, neighbors, enemies and themselves would appreciate having them confused as to which love He commanded. There is only one love. That very simply is meeting someone's need (16). Of course that action is made easier by affection but still it is an order; a command from the High King Himself and it cannot be refused. To do so eventually results in self-indulgence, Narcissism and death.
There is no peace from solving the conflicts surrounding sex. Although it could bring the intense pleasure and high joy, most often it is shrouded in the selfish pursuit of sexual pleasure. That pleasurable sensation, though more intense than any other is fleeting. It leads to the growing desire for more and more orgasms until the pair is momentarily exhausted. After sexual satiation there is some reflection on "what if I get pregnant" or "maybe she/he has a disease" or "now I will have to marry him" or "that was nice but not really intimate", or "I wonder if there may be someone I could really love" or "there must be a way to have this without all the worries" or "we should try something different next time" etc.

5. Something different. When the sexual encounter is mainly or solely for physical sensation, it leaves the couple dissatisfied. Then instead of refocusing on the interpersonal, they want to recapture the intense pleasure of those first occasions by some less "orthodox sex". They will try oral sex, or doggy style, or anal, or three some, and combinations of these.
While the sensations will be momentarily more intense because they are unusual, the dissatisfaction after will be greater because it is less interpersonal and the risks of disease greater. Then the pursuit of pleasure becomes more desperate and more bizarre. What is not usually recognized is that operant conditioning to any kind of sex which results in an orgasm activity and the classical conditioning to the person, always apply. Soon Eve's daughters find themselves bonded to a person of the same sex and conditioned to some form of sexual pleasure that is aberrant. Because they enjoy sex with their own sex. They conclude they must be lesbian. At first they question themselves but when anyone else questions them, they become angrily defensive and thus convince themselves as they try to convince others they are indeed lesbian.
Although it is very unpopular to speak or write about normal sex, this author is convinced there is normal satisfying sexual behaviour and abnormal sex, which leads to disappointment and by stages to depravity. The penis and vagina were carefully designed to fulfill the 2 main functions of the Designer's intent namely: a) To multiply the species human (17). Since there is no retraction of this command in the bible, I must suppose God wanted that to continue indefinitely and made the universe with enough space and resources to accommodate an infinite number of humans. b) To bond the male and female as the basis of a family, which was necessary for children(18). The intense pleasure of an orgasm helps insure the humans desire to do this often and the exchange of hormones biologically reunite them and sustain their health. Anything other than this was a distortion or perversion of the Designer's intent and will lead to frustration and poor health.

6. HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Until recently HIV was almost exclusive among IV drug users and gay men, the latter because of anal intercourse. Now HIV among women is increasingly frequent because women are more readily accepting anal intercourse. Individually they will say they don't like it but they also see that it pleases men and they can't get pregnant. This is particularly important in parts of the world where poor obstetric care results in more vaginal tears. These when poorly healed are more sensitive and more lax. Thus sex was less enjoyable for men and more painful for women.

Power through Sex.
Anyone who wants something more than another is always at disadvantage. Men have a higher drive for intra-vaginal sex than women. Like the salmon, they are biologically driven to propagate their species and will die to do so. Women are certainly biologically driven to conceive and bear children but it is not too difficult to sublimate that drive. Besides, much of the time their energies are taken up with nurturing the children they already have. Because they are determined to do childcare well, they don't want too many children and their care become too diluted and themselves too tired. Men seem to have boundless energy to have sex, especially when they can do so without impregnating their mate. Women instinctively know a child is best reared in a family, which need committed relationships. They seemed not to realize that greater emphasis on pleasure rather than intimacy led more often to flitting partners. Men didn't realize the end result of diluted bonding and intimacy results in more power to women and eventually a matriarchy.
It doesn't take long for an idealistic young woman to become cynical when she realizes how much power she can wield by just making herself less available. She went into marriage determined to equally share everything but soon finds the pleasure of power over her mate. She knows she must play it just right to get the maximum advantage. So she flirts and teases to arouse him then makes a proposition he can't refuse, at least not if he is to have his way with her. Of course he becomes enraged when just when everything is in place, she complains of a splitting headache. She uses this opportunity to make him feel ashamed of his drive and organ. If she does this too often there can either be violent or a pathetic husband who feel ashamed of himself, not just his sex. This shame dulls his drive to work and provide for his family. Because he now tries less hard to get ahead or may quit his boring job, his wife has more to shame him with. Eventually he leaves his family for someone "more sympathetic and understanding". He may commit suicide or drink to excess or find a gay partner. At any of these, his ex-wife explodes with verbal violence, which most men cannot counter because she has a greater vocabulary, strong emotional intonation and persistent illogic. He becomes infuriated at the succession of defeats and strikes her. She phones the police. He is placed in custody and further humiliated.
The net effect is one angry feminist ex-wife and one furious but cowed ex-husband. Both of them are convinced their view is correct and determined to convince the world they have been treated unjustly. Thus sex, which the Lord designed to bring people together, now more frequently drives them apart with the divorce rate at over 50%.
Modern women have used a combination of seducing men and then making them feel guilty to gain many sociopolitical advantages (10) but they are less happy than the used to be (19). A few have realized that they were more content and fulfilled when well performing their traditional roles but they cannot persuade the majority.
The USSR encouraged women into the work force when they first came to power. They argued that twice the work force would result in twice the GNP. By the early 60s they tried to reverse this with work disincentives for women because the family breakdown created such social chaos if there were any economic benefits of women working, they were offset by the costs of alcoholism, juvenile delinquency etc. Now they also realize the economic catastrophe of a declining population. They want women to stop having abortions, have children and stay at home.

Men failed women.
Adam should have been with his mate Eve when she was being tempted by Satan. Knowing God longer and maybe better, he could have had a good argument to counter Satan's distortion, like "to obey is better than sacrifice. In the name of Jehovah, be gone Satan."
Ever since that time, Adam's sons have failed their women by listening to them when they are being tempted to gain more power and sensation. Men should be listening to God and obeying Him only. Either Adam was occupied with some other interest of else he had a fight with Eve that fate-full morning. Now Adam's sons should be pulling their mates away from TV and encouraging them to help with some project of God.
Some modern women are claiming they don't need men for anything, not even sperm, well, maybe one or two donors. Yet whenever there is a dirty or dangerous job, men are usually doing it. With few exceptions, men are gallantly changing tires in the rain, collecting garbage, falling mighty firs (still the most dangerous job in the world) and shooting it out in a real and messy war in some miserable place far from home.
Males are more easily distractible, impulsive and quick to react. These are diagnostic features of the so-called Attention Deficit Disorder. It is a real problem in the average classroom but in the woods, on the sports field and on the front lines they are important assets. Men were not designed to sit for hours concentrating on what is immediately before them. Women are. So it is no surprise that with equal intelligence women do better at formal education and desk jobs. Then why you must ask, does the government insist on "affirmative action" in which the woman will get the job when her rival is male and they have equal credentials. Currently women have 10 to 12 advantages over men, (10) but still they complain they are being discriminated against and the government should do more for sexual equality.
All this makes many men want to give up. It is even more distressing for Christian men when so many Christian authors on marriage proclaim what they consider to be the biblical basis for democracy, equality and partnership in marital relationships. How, I wonder, is it possible to have a democracy of two?
In crises, men are able to make better decisions and react more quickly. If it were not for crises, women could rule. Especially in a modern sedentary world they would provide good leadership. However, human history seems to be one crisis after another. For the Christian there is perpetual spiritual warfare. Thus in this world, men should and do lead. The brief episodes of woman leadership have been when men failed to take charge in a complex crisis. Most families are confronted with one crisis after another. It is the "man of the house" who is called to make the necessary decisions. If left to women, they usually flounder in fear and confusion.
Men and women can never be equal for they were created very different. There are tasks that are not at all interchangeable. Men can't give birth or breast feed. Women are unable to make sperm or (with some rare exceptions) carry heavy burdens. Does this mean one sex is superior to the other, of course not. It does mean they are different and when behaving according to their design, they are most content.
Every child is born with a blueprint of who they are to become. Each child has the capacity to read his/her blueprint. Little children are most clear about their design and can clearly indicate to the adult world whom God intended them to become. If only their parents would look and listen long enough, they could detect what, when and how much their child needs. When children's needs are met they are content and not quarrelsome or rivalrous. When a child spends so much time hitting a variety of objects and intently listening to the tones, no parent should need to be told that child is interested in and probably has a talent for music.
When men and women do what they were designed to do and are aided to become who they should, they experience more peace and joy. When men are forging ahead, discovering, caring for those dependent on them, they feel a sense of accomplishment. When women are good companions and help mates, these husbands they are content.

Net Effect on Women.
Now women have many more ways to obtain pleasure and power; ways unimaginable 50 years ago. But are they happy? There are many reasons they are not happy. These are a few.

1) Marriage and other relationships.
a) Male availability. In most cities the ratio of women to men who want to marry is growing. Many protesting spinsters I have heard say, "Where are all the men?"
b) Post Abortion Survivors who now number about 50% of the population are less interested in marrying. This is especially true of men, because their mothers chose to let them live now they fear the power of women.
c) Men are less able and interested in making a commitment, mainly because with contraceptives and abortion they feel little obligation to any pregnancy that might result from sex. The courts in almost every country have decided a man has no legal interest in child he fathered. He has neither right nor ability to protect that child and so most don't bother trying.
d) Most women and men are bonded to many others thus making intimacy and life long pair bonding less likely.
e) Rampant, often lethal STDs make the use of the condom a necessity but no one can fully trust a condom so both sexes are afraid of letting themselves go during sex. They must first check to determine whether or not their partner may be infected with HIV, herpes, clammydia, HPV etc. for 25 plus STDs.
f) With the condom there can be no exchange of hormones that sustain life and make them one flesh (20).
g) Many women entering marriage have had an abortion. Because of the harmful physical and emotional effects, they are reluctant to have children, much to their husband's disappointment.
h) Many women are more often expected to be partners, sharing in making a good living but yearning to stay home and have children.
i) Having accepted the media's advice to "look after yourself and have a good time" women are more narcissistic. As such they are more inclined to be disappointed in their husband's sexual prowess and more inclined to "pleasure" themselves, further undermining the natural pair bonding.
j) When they are left by their husbands or partners, they must become the super mums they read about in women's magazines with: job, house keeping, husband hunting, child rearing, on committees or fund raising for their children's extracurricular activities etc.
k) Deeply discontented for modern women are far from the design and activity indicated by their blueprint but unable to change direction because of their manifold commitments and their subconscious acceptance of current cant regarding male-female relationships.
l) Accepting kinky sex and anal intercourse not because of enjoyment but to please a man and possibly find a husband in their sexual partners, they mostly find diseases for which cure is unlikely or impossible.
m) Growing distrust between man and woman, both ways, is often the result of abortion. She cannot trust a man who leaves her bereft, especially after she had the abortion at his insistence. Men do not trust women who abort their baby without his awareness or consent or claim it is an impregnation by some other man when there were multiple partners.
n) Because abortion often results in depression during and after the following pregnancies, women will have greater difficulty bonding to those children. Poorly bonded children are more likely to be abused and neglected (21). "Wanted" children have higher expectations placed on them and are thus more disappointing (22).
o) Post abortion surviving children are less likely to use their abilities, more likely to have existential guilt, less likely to want children and more likely to abandon their parents when they become old and feeble.
p) Women who work and are stressed during their pregnancy are more likely to have effeminate boys who are more likely to be recruited by predatory homosexuals.

2) Health.
a) Dysparunia. Having had many partners, abortions and STDs women are more likely to have pain with vaginal and/or anal intercourse. This means that although they are seductive, women are less sexual and men more frustrated.
b) Caesarian Sections. The rate of CSs is growing rapidly. The scar in the uterus may interfere with the placenta and may weaken the wall that may rupture during labour.
c) Antibodies. The placental barrier is a most remarkable structure, allowing the easy passage of oxygen and nutrient to flow from the mother to the baby but preventing disease and allergenic protein from crossing the placental barrier. During an abortion the barrier is disrupted so that blood and fetal tissue cells can enter the maternal blood stream. As a result, the mother may develop antibodies that can harm the next child and may contribute to "autoimmune diseases" she later develops.
d) Fibromyalgia. This poorly understood syndrome consists of excruciating pain at major joints and muscles. Although the baby may be too young to experience pain, whenever tissue is torn apart pain hormones such as Cholecystekinin, Somatostantin, are released and may enter the maternal circulation. As a result the woman may feel the severe pain of the baby being torn apart even though she is reasonably well anaesthetized. This pain may be sufficiently severe that it produces a memory engram. The brain cannot locate the source of pain because it does not come from damage in the woman. Therefore it seems to originate in those areas of the woman's body, which would be most painful if she were torn limb from limb like her preborn baby.
e) HIV is unlikely from usual vaginal intercourse, but when there has been an abortion, seminal plasma with HIV virus finds a luxuriant media in the mixture of blood and mucous in the vagina that may last for weeks as the uterus and vagina heal from the scraping and tearing of the abortionist's curette. AIDS is very likely to result from rape or intercourse with a virgin, because the hymen is torn and bleeding results.
f) Because of affirmative action, she can get a job while her husband cannot. This leaves her stressed about performing well at work, without sufficient sleep, yearning to be with her children when they are young, angry at the unfair load she must carry and frustrated with her feminists sisters who got her into the mess. The lack of sleep in particular is damaging to both physical and mental health. It is now found that rheumatism is linked to the lack of sleep.
g) There is substantial evidence (23), that the incidence of breast cancer is directly linked to previous abortions, especially if the woman was young and the abortion was her first pregnancy and if breast cancer runs in her family.
h) A previous abortion is also linked to depression (24). Every loss in a human's experience needs to be grieved. Babies lost by abortion are one of the most difficult griefs because the 7 or more requires for good grieving cannot take place (25). Often post abortion grief is never allowed to get started for a variety of reasons including the fact post aborted women are discouraged from discussion their grief. Without the normal progression and resolution that comes from grief, it becomes pathological grief, which often leads to depression.
i) Because post abortion mourning is mistaken for depression, an antidepressant is too readily prescribed. That medication will keep the woman from experiencing the wide variety of emotions she must go through to complete the grieving. Thus her grief is not resolved and eventually becomes a depression. Depression interferes with the immune system and thus she is more likely to become infected or develop cancer.
j) Depression suppresses emotions and perceptions so that good parenting becomes harder. Because it is assumed that depression is caused by a "chemical imbalance" once a woman is placed on antidepressants, she will usually stay on them for a long time if not for life. In this way her experience of life, good and bad is dulled. If she is ever to stop taking one or more antidepressants, she realizes how much of life and love she has missed out on.
k) Psychotropic medication often suppresses REM sleep. Without dreaming she becomes more anxious and irritable. Finding she is not able to calmly cope with her children's demands she is more likely to place them in day care and thus she misses many of the joys and sorrows of her children growing up.
l) Children in day care become sad and angry at being deprived of parents and home. They are more likely to compete for and demand parent attention. Because their parents "can't stand their constant competition and fighting", even when they are home they are ignored and left to spent long hours watching idiotic TV. Since "garbage in, garbage out" invariably applies, parents are shocked at their child's course vocabulary and bad manners.
m) Although a parent may ascend the beaurocratic ladder in a government department or big business, they soon find there is little satisfaction there compared to the simple joys of being a mother and wife. They begin to resent the necessity of working and their productivity falls off. They become anxious about losing their job and with many self-recriminations drive themselves to keep working. This often translates into becoming increasingly demanding and controlling at home. Not able to quit because her husband can't find work and mortgage, car etc. payments must be met, she becomes increasingly worn, thin and irritable until neither her children nor her husband want to be at home. Then she collapses and although more worn out then depressed, she is placed on medication, which she must keep taking if she is to be able to continue at all the tasks she has assigned herself. Sadly most of the medications prescribed by physicians have only been studied for 3 to 5 years. Little is known about their long term effects but obesity, cardiac rhythm anomalies, untreatable tardive dyskinesias, etc. are now coming to light.
n) Too often there are severe withdrawal effects of medications, so much so people who try to stop them, experience intense headaches etc. They are convinced by these that they really do have a chemical imbalance and will need to take medication for the rest of their lives.
o) Women who have an abortion losses a cherished part of herself, her ability to rely on following her protective instincts whenever her children are threatened and her nurturing responses whenever her children are hungry. She has changed and can't go back.
p) A woman who has had an abortion is more likely to react with rage to her dependent child's helpless cry. She will not be able to trust herself as well when and if she becomes angry with a child.
q) A woman who has had an abortion losses, never to be recovered, much of integral components of her femininity, innocence and therefore much of her attractiveness.

3) Poverty.
a) As the Soviets found to their dismay, encouraging women to work does not double the GNP. It does result in social chaos and family breakdown the drains the economy of individual and state.
b) The most efficient organization economically is the intact family. Divorce results in costs of many kinds that tend to impoverish the children during critical stages of their develop and less in their inheritance.
c) With a declining population, primarily as the result of abortion, neither a capitalist nor a communist economy will work. The inevitable deflation robs people of the hard work they put into saving and investing. House loses value because there is less demand. Carpenters, loggers, teachers, real estate salesmen etc. cannot find work. Eventually even those with government and university tenure are laid off.
d) As poverty increases, the rich to poor gap widens. People are angry, bitterly envious and covetous. With less moral restraint. Crime rapidly grows, especially abductions and demands for ransom.

4) God deprivation.
a) A woman who works and cares for a family has little time for private devotions. Lacking quiet time with her loving Lord, she is not spiritually refreshed and has no time to listen to His guidance.
b) When she goes to church she wants a lively service so she won't fall asleep. The sermons are shouted and short. She wasn't able to concentrate nor will she see a bold example of what is being taught at church, so that she seldom gets the point or is emboldened to put it into practice what she heard taught. The music of the worship team is loud and lacking depth of meaning. She returns home badly disappointed and with dispirited words complains to her children so that they become increasingly disinterested in church or Christian fellowship.
c) Lacking time for a maturing fellowship, she resorts to thin books, short retreats, or fast tapes, which she plays driving to work. Out of these she generally gets advice, which is superficial. Even when it is correct for her, she has neither time nor energy to implement her earnestly held beliefs. Her love for her Lord sours and cools. Feeling abandoned, she eventually becomes angry with God, ignores him and gets caught up in watching mindless TV on Sunday mornings and then berates herself for her weak faith.
d) When she becomes pregnant, without discussion with her husband, she chooses to have an abortion. Having once been a keen Christian, she feels devastated but having been secretive she cannot discuss her distress with anyone. Increasingly alienated from Christian fellowship she drifts into feminist ideology and eventually into the arms of a lover, male or female. Desperately disgusted with herself she digs a deeper hole of self-destruction, taking drugs and expecting her new found faith among her feminist sisters will restore her self-esteem. She is found championing abortion, drugs and enlightenment with Yoga, flying high but deeply bitter at everyone, including herself.

The Bitter End to the FALL.
1. "I've lost everything"
a) "What a fool I have been. Oh Lord, how can I get back?" Whenever any of her old friends hear this cry they respond with a plethora of panaceas. "I know a lady who took this counseling course and she is healed, Praise the Lord" Etc. Usually this lady is neither healed nor grateful but she doesn't want to drop her facade and lose her friends, so she pretends. She recommends to others the course or counseling she found to be of so little benefit. So a host of others follow her weary steps. Each one knowing the real issues has not be dealt with but not knowing where to turn.
b) "What a fool I have been, but I can't go back now and retain any self-respect, so I will keep going, only I will try harder and avoid all the old traps of drugs", etc. This may last for a few months or years and then she collapses again, only this time more wounded and broken.
c) Now having admitted to herself she could not recover by her own effort, she turns to physicians. After a cursory examination the doctor too often states, "So now let be quite clear madam, you are feeling very sad, don't enjoy life, cannot functions well at home or at work, have nightmares and have lost all desire for sex, yes? Then you are depressed and need an antidepressant for the chemical imbalance in your brain. Fortunately I have just the right thing and can get you started on some samples the nice detail man just left me." To him/her self the doctor is saying, "I know that the abortion for which I referred her is the root cause. This is one of many I have now seen. But I can't let her know this or I might get sued".
d) Finally, 5 to 10 years later, she is feeling no happier, much disturbed by REM breakthrough nightmares, unhappy children who don't trust her and drift away, and a husband who although "faithful" is addicted to porn and her self esteem as low as it can go. She may find some good counseling to help her deal with her grief and guilt but it is rare.
e) She ends up in an "old folks home", bereft of family, friends and even pets. If anyone comes to visit, it is out of a sense of bitter obligation and then to stay for as short as they can. She fears senility and the government sponsored euthanasia but she can't die yet. She has not reconciled with her children nor told them about her abortions. She has confessed to God over and over. She tries to believe He has forgiven her for her murders but feels no peace nor can she forgive herself.

THERE IS A WAY OUT: but it is hard and painful.
1. Forgiveness and reconciliation.
a) The deep damages of neglect, abuse and pregnancy loss are difficult to heal; much of it, not at all. God could forgive a woman and make her completely whole, but He doesn't. I have never seen nor heard of Him bringing an aborted baby back to life. The reason is simply that would make a mockery of the evil of her wrong choice. This and other bad choices are so important God does not heal us from the effects; not in this life. Thus she must mourn the loss of the person God intended her to be. Then she can begin grieving the loss of her humanized, individualized, and welcomed babies (26).
b) She must now reconcile with all those she has hurt and those who hurt her by neglects, abuses and aborting her babies. Yes she must reconcile with the abortionist by forgiving him/her and asking for his/her forgiveness. This is the hardest thing she will ever have to do. But it must be done. When she does this her life will change, partly because now she no longer keeps fresh all the painful memories of her traumatic past.
c) When she has forgiven those who have hurt her. Christ is ready and willing to forgive her. All she must do is confess all her sins of commission and omission, commit herself to Jesus God's Messiah as her Saviour and Lord and live a life of loving Him first in everything.

2. Give up the pursuit of power and sensation. A woman who truthfully intends to change her way of living to that which the Lord intended must now:
a) Give up her job in favor of some unemployed father even if it isn't her unemployed husband.
b) Make her first work and joy being a wife and mother. She should give up the idea of being his partner but instead be his fully equal (in God's sight) and serve him as both of them would serve Christ.
c) Honor her husband, even when he does not deserve it and even if she cannot respect him. She does this by saying honoring things to him and to her friend about him.
d) Support him whole-heartedly in the work to which God has called him. Do not nag him, but pray and wait for God to stir him to action.
e) In tough times, she must encourage him in whatever employment he can find and not harass or belittle him because his work is so menial.
f) Rejoice in serving her husband as he must rejoice in serving His Lord.
g) Never say no to normal sex, although they can by mutual agreement refrain in order to space their children and to fast and pray.
h) Be fruitful and multiply with as many children as God has given her the capacity to raise carefully.
i) Be an example to other women in word and deed to the benefits of being God's woman to her husband.

3. Make a career out of being mother.
a) Being mother is the most complicated, demanding, rewarding task in the world.
b) Spend considerable time learning about children's health and development.
c) Becomes wise and mature, more a model than an instructor to her children.
d) Enjoy and use wisely all possible opportunities for being grandmother.

4, Husbands must:
a) Love your wives as your own body. Since your love for her is meeting her needs, you can do so on the basis of knowing your own needs and finding out what she needs.
b) You must honor your commitment to love all those you promised to love in all ways that do not interfere with your own marriage, especially those to whom you were married by God (pair bonded).
Not listen to your wife and do whatever evil or self or family self- indulging mechanism she may suggest.
c) Listen first to God who will clearly instruct you in all the ways you must obey Him and love your neighbour.
d) Your priorities must be in this order: God, wife, family, brothers and sisters in Christ with whom you fellowship, neighbours, friends and enemies.

CONCLUSION.
God made mankind a little lower than Him but beginning with Eve, we made or would tend to make the wrong choice. Eve was seduced by Satan whose deceit she could have detected if she had not been so eager for sensation and power. Ever since most women have been deceived by the mass media's promises of fulfillment with pleasure and power over men.
Women having power over men and demanding pleasure has not worked and never will. The end is emptiness and a desperate hope in one final independent act of blotting everything out with doctor assisted suicide. The route to this isolation and despair is through manipulation of men to accomplish for her what she cannot gain for herself. Though modern women have more sensual pleasures and power than their mothers dreamed of they clamor for more because what they have is so fraught with disappointment.
After all the effort by feminists to promote women empowerment, all the promises of utopia, all the manipulating and dishonesty has resulted only in fatigue, despair and bitterness. A few leading women now see the futility of it all but they cannot accept the need for a dramatic change.
There is a way out. It is through reconciliation with mankind, salvation through God's Messiah and a repentance, which involves returning to living her blueprint as much as possible. God designed her to be companion and help mate to one man whose goal in life is to serve His master until death do them part. Therein lies contentment and joy far beyond what super, successful women now experience. For God's ways are always wise and loving. .

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